10 Ways To Make A Relationship Work Again

Are the petty fights escalating? Are the silences
becoming longer and more deafening? Can you
two lay in the same bed all night and not even
touch each other once? If yes, you both have
probably noticed that there are serious problems
with your relationship.
The question is – how can you save it? Is there
anything you can do before it is too late and
things are over for good?
If you are both willing to make an honest attempt
to patch things up and are willing to try anything
to make it work, you are already to half way
down the road to saving your relationship. Now
take a look at these ten ways to save your
relationship, and be ready to work at it.

1. Rediscover what brought you two
together in the first place:
Were you instantly attracted to her unique sense
of humor or her personality quirks? Did he drive
you crazy in his football jersey, or a great outfit
you saw him at a club in? What exactly was it
that sparked the initial attraction? Revisit your
past – go places you used to frequent when your
relationship was fresh and new. Do the things
that you used to do together. Your feelings for
each other are still there, but they have been
covered over by the stresses of your lives – it is
time to feel them all over again.

2. Touch each other – without needing a
reason:
In our anger or sadness, humans have the
instinct to withdraw into themselves – shelter
ourselves from anything that might hurt us.
However, when you stop reaching out to your
loved ones, you hurt them. Make it a point to
reach out and run your fingers through her hair.
Run your fingers along his arm, or across his
back. Whatever it is, just get used to touching
each other again.

3. Kiss each other:
There is only one problem with number 2 –
touching can sometimes come across as
accidental – however, a kiss is a kiss, and there
absolutely no way to accidentally kiss someone.
For women: put your hands around his face, lean
in and give him a big kiss – just like if the first
time you have kissed him. For men: put your
arms around her, run one hand up her back and
neck and gently pull her hair – when her head tips
back, give her a big kis. It is amazing how a
single, passionate kiss can melt the ice even the
strongest anger and sadness.

4. Change your surroundings:
Even the best of homes can seem like prisons if
you stare at them long enough. Go away for a
weekend – or, take a Friday off and make it a
three-day weekend. If you can’t afford to go far,
or just can’t, you should take the time to go to a
local hotel – just that little mini-getaway can
make a world of differences in putting the two of
you in better moods.

5. Respect Each Other as if You Were
Strangers:
It is a common known fact that we treat
strangers with respect – often more respect than
we treat people we have know our entire lives. In
public we take care to make sure our manners
are exquisite – but, in relationships, we often get
so comfortable that we can forget to be polite
and courteous. Is that fair? No. So, change it.
Give out compliments for all the small things
that he or she does. Say please and thank you all
time. It is time to start treating your significant
other like they are someone special, and
someone that you really, really like.

6. Learn something new together:
Stop fighting long enough to learn something
together. Take a ballroom dancing class. Join a
bowling league. Take a continuing education
class together. There are so many great things
that you can learn how to do together to build a
new and exciting bond to replace any of the old
skills that have gotten lost in the mix of your
daily lives.

7. Try to talk it out:
A man cannot read a woman’s mind – you have
to tell him things! Imagine that you got your hair
cut, and he still hasn’t said anything about it.
Was it a dramatic change? Did you hack off 6
inches, or more, or completely change the style?
If not, it is possible that it just did not register to
him. Would you get mad at him for not noticing,
and let that eat at you from inside? Would it
cross your mind that he may have noticed, did
not really like it, and didn’t say anything in order
to keep from hurting your feelings. Anyway, you
need to tell him that you are mad that he didn’t
notice, or say anything – but, just be prepared for
him to tell you that he didn’t like it – which, of
course, may make you even angrier (be prepared
for that).

8. Write a letter:
A handwritten letter says a ton of things – first,
and foremost, it shows that you care enough to
take the time and effort. Second, if you really are
not communicating in any other way, it may be
your last best hope. Write a letter listing the
things that you are feeling, the things that you
don’t like and what changes you would like to
make. However, and this is extremely important,
remember that you must be ready to back up
anything that wrote if a confrontation, or
discussion ensues.

9. Try professional counseling:
You may have a hard time considering your man
to attend counseling with you – we are extremely
proud people, and do not like to admit that we
need help, with anything (especially if we know
that we really need help with it). Talking things
out with friends and family has a serious flaw –
they have loyalties to one of you, or the other.
However, a counselor, is completely neutral and
will maintain objectivity in their assessment and
assistance.

10. A Breakup or Trial Separation:
If all else fails, take some time apart – cut off
contact completely for a while. Move on and
develop your own lives. It has been said that
absence makes the heart grow fonder – and
getting your lover back after a breakup is part of
the magic of making up. Often times, a couple
that goes their separate ways, builds their own
lives independently and then rediscovers each
other, can come back with a stronger, more
balanced relationship.

If you make it to step ten, and decide to call
things off for a while, you will need to really
move on, and rebuild yourselves before you
make any moves to get back together – at this
point it is not about saving your relationship – it
is about rekindling your attraction and building a
new, stronger relationship

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