Archive | May 2012

THE TEN CRACK COMMANDMENTS OF BUSINESS

1. Never Let No One Know How Much Dough You Hold; Don’t let anyone know your true worth. It’ll make people jealous and want to steal it from you

2. Never Let ’em Know Your Next Move; Don’t be easily predictable, Don’t let anyone know what your next business step or idea is because if you unearth your business plans before you actualise it or turn it into a product / service people will steal the idea and use it against you.

3. Never Trust Nobody; Trust is a big and delicate thing in business, thought its good to surround yourself with people you truly trust but with your ideas and money, never trust anybody with both because even your mother would betray you for the money that’ll be in it.

4. Never Get High On Your Own Supply; Don’t use your own product as gift to people except when you are doing sales promotions or enticing customers.

5. Never Sell No Crack Where You Rest At: Your business and your home are 2 different things entirely, never mix the 2 together.

6. That God Damn Credit, Dead It: Never encourage credit in your business unless you are planning to bankrupt and go out of business

7. Keep Your Family And Business Completely Separated; Never put the running of your business in the hands of people who are related to you, people you can’t easily deal with when ‘shit hits the fan”. Your family shouldn’t run your business because blood and money don’t mix well.

8. Never keep No Weight On You: Your products shouldn’t be with you at all times, even if you do mobile marketing or you take your products to your customers never carry it with you always unless you want people to rob you of it.

9. If You Ain’t Getting Bags Stay The Fuck From Police; Always be on the positive side of the law, never do anything illegal in your business because too much of legal battle will ruin you business.

10. A strong Word Called Consignment, If You Ain’t Got The Clientele Say Hell No; There is no reason to store products or order for products when you don’t have the customers to sell it to. Your suppliers won’t care whether you sell it or not, they’ll take their money from you.

THE TEN CRACK COMMANDMENTS OF BUSINESS is originally a song by Notorious BIG.

……The Thoughts Of A Nigerian Youth

…………I was born in the 80’s
Growing up I was told am a leader tomorrow
Was told the future looks bright
Was told Nigeria is a great nation

I know I’ll live 90years on earth
Am almost thru with the 1st quarter of the 90years
When is the future gonna come
Maybe they lied that I’ll be a leader 1day

Perhaps I’ll be a leader 1day
Maybe when those old men decide they’ve had enough
Just enough money till they die
Maybe then I’ll have a chance

I was born in a country
Where the youth leader is my grandfather’s age
Does it mean we have no capable youth in this country
Or the chance to be a leader is not just existing

Other countries of the world recycle plastics and bottles
My country recycle leaders
Same leaders that were there before my birth
Still have the ambition to rule again

The man that ruled some years before I was born
Wants to come back again
He said he is too young to quit politics
Maybe am too old to be a leader

Boko haram in the north
Ritualists in the east
Militants in the south
Armed robbers in the west

Yet we all have a mutual enemy
The federal govt fucks us all
They don’t care if we live or die
The result of the choice we made

Millions of graduates are produced yearly
No provision is made for any of us
We all have to fight for the few jobs available
That’s the situation we find ourselves

As an optimist the future looks good
As a pessimist the future looks dark
As a realist the future looks uncertain
But as a Nigerian youth I know I will make it
That’s the spirit I was born with

Just a thought
My thought
The yearning of millions of Nigerian Youth
What we think everyday.

Written by Amarachi Amaechi

Love & Lust; An Inseparable Union

Lust attracts partners to each other while Love
keeps them together, when attraction dies
in a relationship, the relationship will eventually end.

Love doesn’t exclude lust, just the opposite: if you
don’t lust for her, chances are you don’t love her,
And lust do lead to love sometimes

There are times when people fall for someone
else for reasons utterly unrelated to physical
appearance, for instance; someone has helped them through a difficult period, or stimulated them intellectually, for example. In these cases someone might love, but feel no need for sex. Someone’s kindness or cleverness has attracted someone else to them, and this attraction has nothing to do with physical attributes. It’s not about grabbing them or sex; it’s about meeting a wonderful person. This love has no lust. Does it have a future? Maybe not.
That doesn’t mean it isn’t real, just that it isn’t fertile.
In a relationship, your desire for your partner is not just one of physical attractiveness.

Lust is a two-headed beast. On the one hand, you
might lust after someone you see in the street or in
a bar, you want sex with them. Great. But in a
relationship, when you love your partner for their
eyes, their intelligence, and their kindness – their
body takes on a deeper meaning for you. Its curves
and angles and depths become expressions of your
partner’s personality, not just how they look. You
want your partner; you want to make love to them –
the person and the body as one. So lust can grow
with love. Love and lust become expressions of the
same adoration. Many couples enjoy better and
better sex as they get to know each other over the
years, even though they may put on pounds, or lose
hair. These things become irrelevant when the body
and the person are so intertwined in your
understanding.
In essence then, yes there times when love exists
without lust, but to divide the two is simplistic when
it comes to relationships, they merge, mix and flow together.

The brain chemistry of lust is physically more
powerful than love , if we are in love, we are more likely to be lustful for our partners.

Romantic love, a combination of love and lust, it involves both strong mental and physical desires.

“Love exists above the belt, lust below. Love is lyrical. Lust is lewd.” One difference is, love considers both the other person and yourself, while lust is purely a selfish motivation. However, lust is a component of the physical chemistry that attracts one person to another, which can result in love. At this stage, we are getting the idea that the two work together.

Being in love makes a person think twice about acting on their lust with someone besides
their partner. Lust for one’s partner can strengthen
the attraction and love for them. Lust may be the
ingredient that makes love stronger, and of
course.
Being in a relationship and in love signifies having
access to sex when we want- or at least that’s the
theory. If we know we are capable of fulfilling our lustful needs with our partner or spouse then we are more likely to have lust on the brain.

The power of true love lies in lust because it is based on natural, physically driven forces of survival. It’s not necessary to be in love to reproduce, but lust is certainly a main factor in reproduction, lust is the motivation.

Whenever we have our more intense feelings of
love toward our partners, they are almost always
tinged with feelings of lust, yearning, and wanting.
Lust has driven us before love was involved.

Strong Lust will sustain the love in a relationship.

DONT BE SCARED OF FAILURE, LEARN FROM IT

It doesn’t matter how many times you fail. It doesn’t matter how many times you almost get it right. No one is going to know or care about your failures, and neither should you. All you have to do is learn from them and those around you because all that matters in business is that you get it right once. Then everyone can tell you how lucky you are
~ Mark Cuban

To some, failure is a step backward / drawback, while to others Failure is another step close to achieving success. Nobody is a failure till he / she concedes defeat and accept that he / she has failed, failing at something doesn’t mean you didn’t prepare well neither does it mean you are not good enough rather it means you still have somethings to do before you achieve your desired goal.

When you attempt something and fail, there are 3 options that will automatically be presented to you

1) Quit and accept you failed.
2) Blame it on the environment and every other thing around you.
3) Start your preparations again and be determined not to make the same mistakes you made when you failed.

Failing at something means you’ll be either a day/ week/ month wiser and knowledgeable than you were the last time you attempted it. The only different between success and failure is the zeal, the determination not to quit and the spirit to be better than you were. The successful people in the world today are those that have failed at something several times over but what separates them from others is the fighting spirit not to give up and the enthusiasm to fight on till they win.

To a determined man the word ‘END” means ‘EFFORT NEVER DIES”, but to a weak man it means the end of trying and in the same vein ‘NO” to a determined man means ‘NEXT OPPORTUNITY” but a weak man will stop making attempts and accept failure.

Failure is as natural as success is. The word failure needs to be re-classified. Instead of using the word failure, we should use ‘err’ in its place. Failing at a task is simply getting it wrong or possibly not getting it right.
Nothing substantial in life will ever be achieved if failure was the end of the road. Life is full of trials and errors and without trials there can be no errors, and without trials and its all encompassing errors, success simply will not be achievable. Errors are the one ingredient we all need.
It is precisely these errors that show us the way things should not be done. This is called learning.
Solutions to problems are born out of failure. Failure only becomes real when you lie down and give up.

Once you stop trying and throw up your arms – once you do not have any more ‘stomach’ for the task at
hand – once you give up and state that it is the end of the road – only then can you describe the task as
failure or at least label it so

Always endeavor to keep trying, keep attempting and never relent, attempt it not till you get it right but till you can’t get it wrong because failure is how you define it to yourself and how you view it.

Below are some helpful quotes

Failure and defeat are not the same thing, Defeat only takes hold when you have succumbed to
failure

Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more
intelligently

Failure builds courage and courage builds success

Failure is a word I don’t accept.

Failure is not a sin – it is a just another way of attaining success.

Failure often contains the very lessons required to be successful

“Failure is the best form of education known to mankind.
The more you fail – the more you learn.
The more you learn – the better educated you are, The better educated you are – the greater the chance is of success.
Thus in order to increase your chances of success, you need to educate yourself, The best way to do that is through failure”

………….But Talent Is Not Enough

This is the concluding part of ‘Nobody was born empty”

Talent Is Not Enough….
To be a success, some other factors determine how successful a man can be with his talent;

Self Belief: To be a success in anything there us a need to have self belief that you can do it, so also a talented person must believe in his/her ability to deliver when and where it matters, of course self belief is one of the requirements of success.

Practice: As the saying goes, ‘Practice leads to perfection”, Talent requires constant and consistent practicing so it could be mastered and done with or without any aid.

Passion: Be passionate about the ability you have, develop it and do everything required to make the talent work for u.

Focus: Be focus on what you want to achieve and avoid unnecessary distractions that could disturb you.

Relationships,: Always be mindful of the kind of relationship you get into because those you associate yourself with could make or mar your talent, not necessarily relationship with the opposite sex, but the relationship with those you work with and those around you.

Character: The kind of character you have will either improve your talent or the other way round, Its always good to have and build a good and positive character towards the development of your talent and bring success.

Initiative: Make better use of your initiative and be very creative with your talent, develop it more.

Responsibility: Always take responsibility for the decision that concerns you and your talent, never blame those around you, learn from your mistakes and build positively on it.

Courageous: Be very bold and courageous in making and taking decisions.

With the input of these factors, with your talent, be sure that success is assured

The Economics of LOVE

Economics is the social science which studies human behavior as a relationship between ends and …….. personal growth, love and happiness to your everyday life. … as a relationship between ends and scarce means which have alternative uses .

The laws of economics are closely related to how most of us think about love, how we reciprocate in a market of love. About 90% of economics laws are based on assumptions and
taking all things as constant.

So, to start with let’s consider the laws of economics as it applies to love.

The Marxian Analysis : This states that the society is based on two things, the economic base and the super structure (all other things in society). The super structure is depended on the economic base. In other words, the whole story of finding and keeping love is dependent on your financial power.
The law of supply of love states that the higher the money supply the higher the supply of love (getting a beautiful babe), i.e., money is directly related to love.
Similarly, the law of demand of love states that the higher the price (the amount of money a boy needs to spend), lower is the demand for that girl, as even though many people want to date but don’t have the means to get her.

However, there the law of diminishing marginal utility works; it works in the either way for the parties in love. Utility is nothing but the psychological satisfaction derived. The law of diminishing marginal utility, states that more and more of a thing we get, the intensity of our desire for that thing tends to diminish. Once, a boy start spending more and more, at a point the satisfaction the girl was getting from the gifts gets diminished. Similarly, once a boy start getting more from the girl after a point he will not get the satisfaction he earlier used to get.
So, it is equally important for both the parties to maintain a balance otherwise the fun would soon be over.

Money plays an important role in love because ladies love money. There are 4 major four of love which determines your level of success in love and they are as follows:
K – Money
P – Physical attributes,
I – Intelligence,
C – Level of creativity

There is a direct relationship between the physical inputs (K, P, I, C) and outputs (mental and physical benefits. This functional relationship is known as production function of love. The law of return will explain the change in output as a result of change in input.

Law of Diminishing Return: In a short run relationship, more employment of variable input (spending) can ultimately led to lesser output or the marginal benefit diminishes. As one of the factors may be changed (money) in a short run, other factors (suppose your muscles) may not be changed, so spending (K) too much may not improve the boy’s chance of getting better benefit. This may happen due to the efficient
combination is falling out, (you have to spend more to hide your physical or other deficiencies) or may be your quantity of fixed factors have become less compared to your variable factors (your physical attribute is so low, that you might have to spend more than what you have spent earlier to impress her, by this time she must have known your weak point but you are helpless.) As, both must have the same level of satisfaction and there is compromise between the two. Once, both have started seeing each other and dating, and you have already started investing,let’s explain the cost-benefit analysis of this relationship from a boy’s psychology and insight.

• A boy spends money on a girl as a capital investment to reap profit in future.
• The more is the spending on good capital resources (gifts and expensive dates) better is chance of getting good output or profit.
• The time one spend, feel good and gets excited is what the break-even point of love, if one is not finding minimum level of satisfaction for his spending he is actually making loss, and would not like to continue the relationship.
• The moment you get a kiss is what you have started making profit.
• The moment you get into her, is what you have started making super-normal profit and hit the
jackpot.
• And if you could not succeed, it is your bad- debt. The whole investment on capital was a wrong calculation and lack of efficient management. Let’s try the luck somewhere else.
Now, let’s analyse what going on in a girl’s mind and why they love money more than anything.
• A girl thinks that the boy must be economically sound and can prove to be a good hubby in
future (economically sound).
• More spending shows that his capability to maintain her lifestyle in future.
• Mental satisfaction is the main thing, the girl thinks her break-even point of love, she feels
good but also the amount of gifts obtained plays an important role.
• When a girl gets emotional, she might give a kiss or might be having a plan to get more gifts
from you. Girls are too complex to understand.
It’s like a gamble you might hit the jackpot or be debt ridden.
• This is where, emotions plays a lot than money but it matters as well. Love for boys is a means to achieve sex which is the ultimate goal. But girls think sex as a means to achieve stronger relationship as a goal. She might give you a chance, when she feels financially safe and secure from your side.
• He was just a fool, she played the way around. She gets “I am the winner” feeling.
Now she will try another fool who can pay her bills.
The Micro – Loveconomics.

Nobody was born empty.

Just like the earth has many Natural resources buried beneath it, we all have natural abilities that we were born with, abilities which are buried deep within us.

Every nation on earth has 1, 2 or more natural resources, also each person on earth has a divine ability to do something and excel with little or no training on it. The resources buried beneath the earth go through different processes and stages before they become the glittering object we cherish; from the stage where they are discovered, to when they are unearthed and other processing stages they go through before they come out shiny, so also Natural talents won’t just come out by itself; first it needs to be
discovered, then refined, practiced and perfected then it can be used to make the world a better place.

To know your talent you need to dig deep into yourself and find out what ability you have naturally and when it is discovered, you practice and perfect it before it can be used.

Nobody was born empty, everybody was born with the ability to do something, even the man with the dullest brain will excel at doing something. Discovered your talent and build on it, You are
good at doing something.

10 Ways To Make A Relationship Work Again

Are the petty fights escalating? Are the silences
becoming longer and more deafening? Can you
two lay in the same bed all night and not even
touch each other once? If yes, you both have
probably noticed that there are serious problems
with your relationship.
The question is – how can you save it? Is there
anything you can do before it is too late and
things are over for good?
If you are both willing to make an honest attempt
to patch things up and are willing to try anything
to make it work, you are already to half way
down the road to saving your relationship. Now
take a look at these ten ways to save your
relationship, and be ready to work at it.

1. Rediscover what brought you two
together in the first place:
Were you instantly attracted to her unique sense
of humor or her personality quirks? Did he drive
you crazy in his football jersey, or a great outfit
you saw him at a club in? What exactly was it
that sparked the initial attraction? Revisit your
past – go places you used to frequent when your
relationship was fresh and new. Do the things
that you used to do together. Your feelings for
each other are still there, but they have been
covered over by the stresses of your lives – it is
time to feel them all over again.

2. Touch each other – without needing a
reason:
In our anger or sadness, humans have the
instinct to withdraw into themselves – shelter
ourselves from anything that might hurt us.
However, when you stop reaching out to your
loved ones, you hurt them. Make it a point to
reach out and run your fingers through her hair.
Run your fingers along his arm, or across his
back. Whatever it is, just get used to touching
each other again.

3. Kiss each other:
There is only one problem with number 2 –
touching can sometimes come across as
accidental – however, a kiss is a kiss, and there
absolutely no way to accidentally kiss someone.
For women: put your hands around his face, lean
in and give him a big kiss – just like if the first
time you have kissed him. For men: put your
arms around her, run one hand up her back and
neck and gently pull her hair – when her head tips
back, give her a big kis. It is amazing how a
single, passionate kiss can melt the ice even the
strongest anger and sadness.

4. Change your surroundings:
Even the best of homes can seem like prisons if
you stare at them long enough. Go away for a
weekend – or, take a Friday off and make it a
three-day weekend. If you can’t afford to go far,
or just can’t, you should take the time to go to a
local hotel – just that little mini-getaway can
make a world of differences in putting the two of
you in better moods.

5. Respect Each Other as if You Were
Strangers:
It is a common known fact that we treat
strangers with respect – often more respect than
we treat people we have know our entire lives. In
public we take care to make sure our manners
are exquisite – but, in relationships, we often get
so comfortable that we can forget to be polite
and courteous. Is that fair? No. So, change it.
Give out compliments for all the small things
that he or she does. Say please and thank you all
time. It is time to start treating your significant
other like they are someone special, and
someone that you really, really like.

6. Learn something new together:
Stop fighting long enough to learn something
together. Take a ballroom dancing class. Join a
bowling league. Take a continuing education
class together. There are so many great things
that you can learn how to do together to build a
new and exciting bond to replace any of the old
skills that have gotten lost in the mix of your
daily lives.

7. Try to talk it out:
A man cannot read a woman’s mind – you have
to tell him things! Imagine that you got your hair
cut, and he still hasn’t said anything about it.
Was it a dramatic change? Did you hack off 6
inches, or more, or completely change the style?
If not, it is possible that it just did not register to
him. Would you get mad at him for not noticing,
and let that eat at you from inside? Would it
cross your mind that he may have noticed, did
not really like it, and didn’t say anything in order
to keep from hurting your feelings. Anyway, you
need to tell him that you are mad that he didn’t
notice, or say anything – but, just be prepared for
him to tell you that he didn’t like it – which, of
course, may make you even angrier (be prepared
for that).

8. Write a letter:
A handwritten letter says a ton of things – first,
and foremost, it shows that you care enough to
take the time and effort. Second, if you really are
not communicating in any other way, it may be
your last best hope. Write a letter listing the
things that you are feeling, the things that you
don’t like and what changes you would like to
make. However, and this is extremely important,
remember that you must be ready to back up
anything that wrote if a confrontation, or
discussion ensues.

9. Try professional counseling:
You may have a hard time considering your man
to attend counseling with you – we are extremely
proud people, and do not like to admit that we
need help, with anything (especially if we know
that we really need help with it). Talking things
out with friends and family has a serious flaw –
they have loyalties to one of you, or the other.
However, a counselor, is completely neutral and
will maintain objectivity in their assessment and
assistance.

10. A Breakup or Trial Separation:
If all else fails, take some time apart – cut off
contact completely for a while. Move on and
develop your own lives. It has been said that
absence makes the heart grow fonder – and
getting your lover back after a breakup is part of
the magic of making up. Often times, a couple
that goes their separate ways, builds their own
lives independently and then rediscovers each
other, can come back with a stronger, more
balanced relationship.

If you make it to step ten, and decide to call
things off for a while, you will need to really
move on, and rebuild yourselves before you
make any moves to get back together – at this
point it is not about saving your relationship – it
is about rekindling your attraction and building a
new, stronger relationship

Corruption; A Nigerian Tradition.

Corruption is a word synonymous with Nigeria nowadays because in all the sectors of our economy there is at least one top official committing fraud or other financial irregularities, it has become so bad that politicians now see any political offices as an avenue or easy means to loot and syphon Billions of Naira, as a means to enrich themselves and give contract to friends and relative.

An average Nigerian vying for a political post has a sole aim of getting rich no matter how little the days he spend in office.

The recent conviction of former Delta state governor has also made nonsense of our judiciary system, a man that wasn’t found guilty of 170 count charges in Nigeria was convicted on 3 count offences in the UK, Ibori’s case and several other high profile fraud case have been swept under the carpet and with the way the fuel subsidy scam report is being handle I fear it might also go the way of previous scam cases

The sports ministry can also boast of fraudulent acts right from the year 1999 when Nigeria hosted the youth world cup, 2003 all African games and recently the N1.2million used to open a facebook fan page by the sports ministry.

THE Transparency International recently expressed
worry over the scope and speed of corruption in
Nigeria, saying it is beyond what it has
ever dealt with.

EFCC and ICPC have both been a waste of time and resources.

Election in Nigeria is a or or die affair, there has never been an election without irregularities frm the federal to local level, several millions are always been expended on elections every election year yet we we hardly record a fair election in any state, irregularities ranging from stealing of ballot boxes, to multiple voting and other unreported acts of misconducts.

Until politics become financially unattractive then we will have people who truly want to serve this country in politics.

Until the juduciary in start treating corrupt officials/politicians the same way ordinary corrupt citizens are been treated as criminals and sent to jail, Nigeria will continue experiencing high rate of corruption and misconducts.

Everything Happens For A Reason

Everything that happens in life is for a reason is, nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck, Illness, Injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but, when you lock eyes with them, you know that every moment they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair but, upon reflection, you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere; safe, comfortable but dull and
utterly pointless. The people you meet affects your life.

The success and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back, unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things.

Make every day count, appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people whom you have never talked to before, and actually listen.

Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you.
Everything In Life Happens For A Reason