Archive | June 2012

Success Requires Sacrifice

Success is not a stroll in the park neither is it a roller coaster ride. it requires hard work, investing energy, time and sweat if possible blood. Success doesn’t go where its not needed neither does it stay where it not appreciated, Success involve starting something small and nurturing it like a flower, doing all you can to make sure you hit it where it matters. Failure is an orphan but success comes with many family, success will attract many things and many people but only those who are worthy and can contribute to make the success last are worthy of allowing to stay. Success also comes with lots of enemies but to stay successful, managing enemies is an important skill.

Success doesn’t come cheap like many believe, it comes at a cost, sacrifices needs to be made and the sacrifices could cost; time, energy and hard work. Only hard work leads to success not sleeping around and expecting success to run after you

Success belongs to everybody and anybody that is willing and ready to give it a good shot and go after it, it is not reserved to a few selected individuals. There are certain principles or commandment that needs to be adhere to in order to record and be a success;

It Does Not Matter How You Start : How you start does not determine how successful you will become, there is a psychological tendency in humans to always improve as the day goes by. Always remember that slow and steady always wins the race. Nobody cares how you start, what people care about is the end result.

Having A Winning Mentality : Having the right
attitude is crucial to being successful, you must have the winning mentality, nobody can become successful without believing in his/her ability to deliver, never doubt your capability and try to give your best to be a winner always.

Welcome criticism : Whenever you set out to do something original, daring, important and
exciting there will always be people, who will
try to talk you out of it. They will tell you your idea or goal is crazy, unrealistic, too risky, too innovative, too strange. Take it as possible feedback, not as the absolute truth, because in most cases people’s criticism has nothing to do with your goal and everything to do with their own personal fears, doubts and negative past experiences.

Learn From Your Failures : The more attempts
you take at something the sooner you will figure out the best way of doing it. Do not be afraid to try and fail. In fact, welcome failure, learn from it and try again.

Dream Big : Every important achievement
always starts with a great dream. Do not settle for less, just because it is easy, familiar and guaranteed. At some point in your life you will have to face a decision to either risk it and go for an opportunity or settle for less than you know you are capable of achieving. ‘Aim for the sky and you will reach the ceiling, Aim for the ceiling you will stay on the floor”….. Bill Shankly

Love What You Do : In order to be successful, itis important to love what you do, success does not solely imply financial security and a handsome paycheck at the end of the month, It is about self- realisation and enjoyment as well.

Always Open Your Mind To Possibilities : It is not always easy to spot a great opportunity that comes your way, especially when it looks like a problem, but this does not mean that we should stop trying. Be careful not to become too rigid in your thinking, as it will impede your ability to see possibilities and act on them.

Always Be Time Conscious : If you want to be successful in life you have to see every new day, every minute of your life as an opportunity for growth and achievement. Make it a habit of asking yourself throughout the day “Am I doing something meaningful or useful?” If not, you are stealing from yourself one of the most precious treasures you have been given – your time.

Associate With Winners : The people in your life will to some extent determine how successful you will be, always associate and rob minds with winners and people who share the same dream as you.

Encourage Others : Starting today focus on
empowering instead of judging, helping instead of criticizing, listening instead of talking, learning instead of convincing that your opinion is the only correct one in the room, and something magical will happen – people will follow you, seek your advice and offer their help to you without you having to ask for it.

Avoid Distractions : A great way of dealing with distractions is to remind yourself that they are the main reason why you will feel stressed out, overwhelmed and unproductive by the end of the week. Every time you say “No” to distractions you are moving one step closer to becoming a true master of your time.

Develop The Action Habit : Don’t be a man of
words but a man of actions, to be successful in life you have to start taking actions and not only talking about what you intend to do, take the risk, do what you need to do.

Be Patient : Success does not come overnight and it does not just happen, it takes time, it needs planning and being patient is very important in becoming successful.

Success is a process and you must love all the process involved, give back to the society and visualize your success.

Importance Of Loyalty

Loyalty or fidelity means devoted commitment that cannot be broken easily. To be loyal, means to adhere to all the promises made for the lifetime.
To keep all the commitments made forever.
Loyalty is rather a very easy word but a very laudable quality that is difficult to keep for many

Loyalty does not consider change in circumstances, rather it grows stronger in times of trouble.
If I am loyal to my partner and my partner meets with an accident that disfigured her, does not mean that I go away to somebody that looks better. If I commit to someone in a relationship and that person goes broke after sometime, that does not mean that I will look for richer persons, people who are loyal don’t break the relationship even at that time., every situation that comes tests loyalty.

When love is going through a period of uncertainties it is loyalty that keep people together.
Every relationship rests on trust and truth. If the relationship began with lies, it can never be sustained, from the seeds of lies how can truth grow?

The first need or requirement of going in a long-term relationship is to be truthful in all respects, fooling others into believing lies is very wrong. Once you have decided to and committed loyally, you should never break it under any circumstances, there can be no excuse for that. By doing any such act, we hurt the other partner who believed in us, and we hurt ourselves by becoming an unfaithful and unreliable person. We lose our self-esteem totally after that. Once that happens, the path is only downhill, all the way to hell. Love and loyalty go together. How can we be disloyal in love? That is an impossible thought.
To love and to be loved is a blessing, to break that by being disloyal is a sin against goodness and If by any chance one does an act of disloyalty, one must immediately confess and ask for forgiveness but will the relationship ever remain same after this act of disloyalty? No. Unless one is lucky to have an extra ordinary partner, the relationship will never remain the same. Better to be a loyal and truthful person always.

Our Regressive Democracy

There certainly is no light at the end of the tunnel in Nigeria, the democracy we prayed and fasted for, the system of government we all craved has not only failed us but it has taken Nigeria and Nigerians one step forward and a hundred steps back, democracy has allowed Nigeria to be run as a family business where there is a chain of succession, only for those the ‘Godfathers” chose, our votes have no meaning, whether we vote or not the next president/governor has already been appointed.

Who would have thought that the system of government we all believe is the best for us will be our greatest undoing, we felt all the injustice, embezzlements, mass murder, religious violence, government sponsored confusion, scams and other malpractises that characterised the military rule will be a thing of the past once democracy is allowed in Nigeria, but it has been a sorry, pathetic, and sad case that democracy has made us the laughing stock all over the world, corruption is now a constitutional right, every sector can boast of scams and frauds running into billions, the fear of the ‘unknown”(by unknown I mean its not clear whether Boko Haram is a tool of the government to cause confusion of ordinary citizens who just don’t want peace).

Criminals (‘militants”) are been paid better than legitimate civil servants, they enjoy benefits a hard working citizen can only dream of, the executive, legislature and judiciary are the most corrupt arms of government in the world today.

Nigeria is one of the highest producer of crude oil in the world yet over 90million of the about 160million population are living in abject poverty, money meant fot citizens are been siphoned with reckless abandon.

There is violence and civil unrest everywhere in the country, our education system has nose dived, even football that used to bring us joy is nothing to talk about now, death, scam, bombs, death and more death is what we hear everyday, for an average Nigerian tomorrow is not guaranteed, the airspace is no longer safe, our roads are death traps, travelling by sea is not an option, even staying at home you are not guaranteed the next minute.

High poverty level, high rate of corruption, low income, bad education system, bad leadership, ineffective & inefficient amenities, scam, fraud, bribe, bomb, death, are some of the dividends of our democracy.

Despite the lives that were lost to achieve democracy, despite all we sacrificed ifor democracy in Nigeria, its a pity there is nothing good to show for our democracy.

Positive Thinking

The finest gift you can give anyone is
encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the
encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond the wildest dreams.

It is not the hours we put in on the job, it is what we put into the hours that counts.”

Every goal, every action, every thought, every feeling one experiences, whether it be consciously or unconsciously known, is an attempt to increase one’s level of peace of mind.

The birthplace of success for each person is in his Inner-Consciousness. The Inner-Consciousness will use whatever it is given. If constructive thoughts are planted positive outcomes will be the result. Plant the seeds of failure and failure will follow.”

When you have too much month for you paycheck, then what you need to do is realize that there is abundance all around you and focus on the abundance and not your lack and as night follows day abundance will come to you.”

To be healthy, wealthy, happy and successful in any and all areas of your life you need to be aware that you need to think healthy, wealthy, happy and successful thoughts twenty four hours a day and cancel all negative, destructive, fearful and unhappy thoughts. These two types of thought cannot coexist if you want to share in the abundance that surrounds us all.”

The world will change for the better when people decide they are sick and tired of being sick and tired of the way the world is, and decide to change themselves and by changing themselves they affect the world positively.

The power of positive thinking will drive you to success when you always see positive, say positive and act positive.

The Dos and Donts of Life

True, Life is full of ups and downs, but the ups and downs are what shape our present and mould our future but to have a good life with less pressure and problems there are some things we should do and some other things we shouldn’t engage in.

Don’t date because you are desperate.
Don’t marry because you feel you are getting old.
Don’t have kids because you think your genes are
Don’t philanderer because you think you are
Good in bed.
Don’t associate with people you don’t trust.
Don’t lie it has too many negative offsprings
Don’t pretend (Never say Yes when No best suit You)
Don’t dictate because you are smarter.
Don’t demand because you are stronger.
Don’t sleep around because you think you are old
enough and know better.
Don’t carry the past with you bury it, Time can’t
bring anything or anyone back.
Don’t keep a space in your heart for anyone.
Don’t be greedy
Don’t be covetous
Don’t bring another life into this world for all the
wrong reasons.
Don’t abandon your responsibilities but don’t
overdose on duty.
Don’t live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Don’t commit when you are not ready.
Don’t keep others waiting needlessly.
Don’t kill for anything
Never stop learning

Always fight for what you love
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won.
Only a price to be paid for some of life’s more hasty decisions.
To terminate your loneliness, visit recreational
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and
be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life.
Get rid of destructive elements
Limit your friends to only those that believe in you
Get rid of abusive friends
Get rid of nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Be true to yourself.
Say those words, Don’t let the moment pass.
Do what you have to
When you feel bad, write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Cry once in a while, it softens your heart, cleanse your retina and make you think deeply.
Take care of yourself.
Don’t wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you – except YOU.
It is true that life does not get easier with age. It
only gets more challenging.
Don’t be afraid. Don’t lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don’t lose faith in your God.

if You Believe, You’ll Succeed

Never affirm self-limitations. What you believe
yourself to be, is what you are.

Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve. Dream great dreams and make them
come true. Do it now!

You are uniquely created, In all the history of the world there was never anyone else exactly like you, and till infinity there will never be another you.

To accomplish great things, you must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. If
you have built castles in the air, put foundations under them and believe, sure you’ll achieve it. Believing is magic, you can always better your best, you don’t know what you can do until you try.

Nothing will come of when nothing is done. If you don’t stretch yourself, you’re never going to get the fruit. There is no failure except in no longer trying.
Lazy goals produce lazy results.

Defeat may test you; it shouldn’t stop your dream. If at first you don’t succeed, try another way. For every obstacle there is a solution. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. The greatest mistake is giving up. Wishing will not bring success, but planning, persistence and burning desire will.

There is a gold mine within you from which you can extract all the necessary ingredients. Success is an attitude, get yours right. It is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen.

Clearly define your goals, Write them down, make a plan for achieving them,set a deadline, visualize the results and go after them. Just don’t look back unless you want to go that way.

If You Believe You’ll Succeed

31 Rules Of Life

There are so many rules and guidelines to follow in life, but here are 31 of the most useful ones;

1. When you are in light, everything will follow you. But when you enter dark, even your own
shadow will not follow you: Success has many families and offsprings, failure is an orphan, That is life.

2. God made relatives. Thank God we can choose our friends: You should surround yourself with people that can help you achieve your dreams not never-do-wells.

3. Money glitters, beauty sparkles, and intelligence shines: No matter how hard you try to hide your achievements it will still be known.

4. Keep a very firm grasp on reality, so you can strangle it at any time.

5. Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re getting

6. People may not always believe what you say, but they will believe what you do: People will always judge you by your actions.

7. I’ve always wanted to be somebody, but I should have been more specific: Be specific about what you want, clearly define your goals.

8. You can’t have everything – where would you put it?

9. Laugh and the world ignore you. Crying doesn’t help either.

10. God is not moved or impressed with our worship until our hearts are moved and
impressed by him.

11. Life is like a mirror, if you frown at it, it frowns back; if you smile, it returns the greeting.

12. Never trust a person who isn’t having at least one crisis: A straight road leads nowhere

13. Goodness is the only investment that never fails.

14. The only thing lazy people do fast is get tired.

15. Never deprive someone of hope; it may be all they have.

16. Silence is the only thing that can’t be misquoted!

17. If we don’t control our money, it will control us.

18. Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that you can die rich.

19. Some drink at the fountain of knowledge. Others just gargle.

20. Everyone has a photographic memory. Some don’t have film.

21. If you are living on the edge, make sure you’re wearing your seat belt.

22. A classic is something that everybody wants to have and nobody wants to read.

23. Minds, like parachutes, only function when they are open.

24. The shortest distance between two points is under construction.

25. Learn from other people’s mistakes, life isn’t long enough to make them all yourself.

26. On the road, never argue with a vehicle heavier than yours.

27. One thing you can give and still keep is your word.

28. Life is funny if you don’t think about it.

29. Life is like a grammar lesson. You find the past perfect and the present tense.

30. There are two kinds of lawyers, those who know the law and those who know the judge.

31. More doors are opened with ‘please’ than with keys.


God Bless The Dead

God bless the dead
God bless the departed
God bless their souls
God grant them peace

None of them knew they were going to die
They were all happy and sharp
Buzzing with happiness and laughter
But they never got to their destination

Its a sad day to be a Nigerian
A very sad 48hrs for us
My people died like chickens
My brothers and sisters

They all had plans for themselves
Great goals to be accomplished
They all told their loved ones they’ll be back
But they never made it back to their loved ones alive

This is not a time to apportion blames Nigeria
This is not the time to curse anyone
This is not the time to ask for anyone’s resignation
Am sure nobody wished death for the departed

Kids became orphans
Husbands became widowers
Wives became widows
What a black sunday

Some died by road
Some by air
Some in their homes
Black sunday for us

What have we done to deserve this
This death is becoming too much
Our lives are no longer secure
Nobody is guaranteed the next minute

Dear God,
Forgive us our sins
In anyway we might have sinned against you
We come to you Oh Lord pls forgive.

As we mourn the departed
Let’s say a prayer for their families
Let’s say a prayer for ourselves
Let’s beg for forgiveness.

Dying To Live : Living To Die

Since my young days have been making efforts to be a man even though I was young and dumb then but I had a belief that am gonna make something out of life, with the sole aim of securing a better future for myself, under the sun and in the rain I have been dying to live a good life even though am living to die eventually.

Make efforts to go to school in sad and happy mood, I sit in class learning things that I may never use in life, mathematics always give me migraine but I can’t leave the class even when am sick and tired of it, yeah have been dying to live a good life even though am living to die eventually.

I play football putting myself at risk, I could get injured or suffer a broken bone but my love for the game won’t allow me think about the hazard that may come my way, even when I don’t get injured I get kicked every time I touch the ball, of cause am dying to catch fun even though am living to die eventually.

Each day I wake up is a plus for my life, going to bed nobody promised me tomorrow but that does not stop me from sleeping every night, yes I know am dying to live even if am living to die.

Everything I do is a risk but those risk are part of what make up my existence on earth, each time I fall in love am putting my heart at risk, to perform not only its main duty but another duty at the same, I know am dying to live but not falling in love does not mean am not living to die.

When I put my money on a business, its a big risk for me, but every businessman is exposed to one risk or another. The business could bring profit or loss, if I make loss I might fall sick, but making profit does not mean I won’t fall sick. Am dying to live even if am living to die.

As a soccer coach I earn my living dishing out instructions on the sidelines, shouting every minute could give me high blood pressure but its what I signed up for, yeah am dying to live but eventually am living to die.

In everything I do in life, I stretch and stress myself, I sometimes go against all odds to achieve my aim, of cause am dying to live a good life but am also living to die someday but not soon.