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The Most Beautiful Creature

When God created man, He formed him and breathed life into his nostrils, then He allowed a deep sleep to come over him so He could patiently and perfectly fashion out the most beautiful of all creatures; A woman

The Man was put to sleep so that he could not interfere with the creation. From one bone the woman was fashioned out, the bone that protects his heart and his lungs and supports him, which is what the woman is supposed to do to her man; support him. Around this one bone the woman is shaped and modelled. The woman was created perfectly and beautifully.

The characteristics of women are as the rib; strong yet delicate and fragile. The ribs provide protection for the most delicate organ in a man; his heart. His heart is the centre of his being; his lungs hold the breath of life. The rib cage will allow itself to be broken before it will allow damage to the heart.

“What would men be without women? Scarce,
sir…mighty scarce.” ― Mark Twain
A woman should support her man as the rib cage supports the body. You were neither taken from his feet, to be under him, nor were you taken from his head, to be above him. You were taken from his side, to stand beside him and be held close to his side.

You are God’s perfect angel. God’s beautiful little girl. You have grown to be a splendid woman of excellence, in your heart are all the good virtues of Good, don’t change them.
Your lips – how lovely when they part in prayer. Your nose, so perfect in form.
Your hands so gentle in touch and in supporting your man

The woman was fashioned in God’s holiness, strength, purity, love, protection, support. A woman is special because she is the extension of God.

Man represents God’s image But woman; His emotions. Together they represent the totality of God. So man – treat woman well, love her, respect her, for she is fragile. In hurting her, you hurt God. What you do to her, you do to God. In crushing her, you only damage your own heart, the heart of your Father, and the heart of her Father.

Woman, support man. In humility, show him the power of emotion that God has given you. In gentle quietness show your strength. In love, show him that you are the rib that protects his inner self.

‘A good woman’s arms round a man’s neck is a
lifebelt thrown out to him from heaven”
JEROME K. JEROME,

The most beautiful of God’s creation is the woman, made from finished materials and modelled to perfection by the Grand Potter Himself, A Queen is what you are, don’t allow yourself be treated orherwise, neither should you present yourself cheap because without you the world is incomplete; You are the Most Beautiful Creature of God.

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Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

Hello my darling,
I need to ask you a question
That has been on my mind ever since we started
A question I always ask myself

I know you love me so much today
But love sometimes go cold with the passage of time
So I felt this is the best time to ask you this
And I hope you give me a sincere answer

Will you still love me tomorrow like you do today?
When things aren’t going as they should can I count on you?
When no one believes me will you stand for me
When I do annoying things will you stick with me?

Uncertainties of life may come someday
With it might come unbearable effects
But my heart shall know no sadness,
If you’ll love me tomorrow

We go through the streets of life together
Walking side by side always
Praying that nothing come between us
With each rising of the sun

Today we go through many issues
But somehow we still stay together
What if I do the unthinkable
Will you still love me tomorrow

As I go through this life
Striving to put my name on the sands of time
I would need someone to lean on
As I row through the ocean of life

Today you’re mine completely
You give your love so sweetly
Today I can read love in your eyes
Will you still love me tomorrow?

I’ll like you to make me this promise
Which is worth more than gold to me
It is only this, my darling,
That you’ll love me tomorrow

Building a Perfect Relationship

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection” Brené Brown

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind woman and a deaf man, because the blind woman cannot see the faults of the man and the deaf man cannot hear the nagging of the woman.

Building a perfect relationship is a full time job that requires commitment, hardwork and great perseverance.

Rome was not built in a day neither were the builders ‘jumping on each others “throat, so also good relationships don’t just happen;
It takes two people who truly wants to be together.
Two people who are willing and ready to sacrifice for each other
Two individuals who are very considerate and are willing to bury their egos for a cause they believe in; LOVE.

Like flowers, relationships needs to be nurtured, watered with pure and true heart and with a view to help each other improve in their chosen fields, a relationship that does not add value to the either love birds is wrong for both parties and it sure won’t hurt to quit.

In building a perfect relationship there are some important elements that are needed:

TRUE LOVE
To build a perfect relationship, the partners need to be sincere in their feelings towards each other, because only when they truly love each will they have a chance to commit and stay loyal to each other.

TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

PATIENCE
Think first before u lose your patience with someone you love. Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes, we are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will either haunt us or help build the relationship.

COMMUNICATION
Talking to one another about everything supports this idea of transparency. We are the only species on the planet that has been gifted with symbolic language, yet we often fail to use it in its most effective capacity – building and maintaining healthy relationships.
Love birds who converse get to know what’s going on. There’s no second guessing, no surprises and no sense of potential deception.

FORGIVENESS
We all look forward to being loved and respected.
Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he/she would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

ORIGINALITY
To create a healthy relationship you have to truly be and represent who you truly are. There is only one thing you have to share with your partner that they cannot experience with someone else…complete intimacy. In order to have intimacy on all levels (sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual) you must honestly show yourself, including your soft underbelly. Seeing and loving each other into fuller expression is the key to a profoundly passionate relationship.  Be vulnerable enough to let your partner see who you really are and be ready to receive love and acceptance.

RESPECT
When partners hold each other as their priority, respect is a natural eventuality. Constantly being late, saying one thing then doing another without preamble all show a lack of respect and consideration. Putting someone else’s needs before your is not really a sacrifice rather it consideration because of the respect and love you have for the person

TEAMWORK
Relationships flourish when you keep your eye on the highest good. When you’re focused on winning, often you’re trying to make the other lose. A successful relationship is about being teammate with a common goal. Your chosen partner is here to heal you and is bringing to light aspects of yourself that you cannot see. Therefore, always assume 100% responsibility for your experience, especially in a disagreement. Often there is something in what your partner is saying that is true. When you respond to your partner’s deeper message instead of reacting, you create a powerful experience of healing negative conditioning and initiate a deeper connection between you and your partner.

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When partners get too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would
hurt the other party. Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception.
One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.

EXPECTATIONS
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their partner will change the bad habits after as they get along, actually, this is not the case. There is a saying that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.” It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the partner’s character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

To build a perfect relationship is not impossible once all the aforementioned elements are put to use.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others
as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.

Written by Amaechi Catherine
@amaraamaechi

Why Ladies Don’t Date or Stay with Nice Guys

In my many relationships I have grown to learn why I most times find it hard to hold down a lady I really love, not really because the lady doesn’t love me back rather its because I always play the nice guy who is ready to give his all to the lady he loves, but most times I wonder why being nice makes me lose the woman I love whereas another guy is treating another lady like he doesn’t need her but the lady refuse to leave. I sat down one day and thought about what have been doing wrong with all this ladies and I came up with this ten mistakes nice guys make; the main reasons ladies don’t want to stay with or date a nice guy even if he gives the lady everything in the world:

1. Nice guys seem fake : This may look confusing but being too nice to a lady makes a guy and the relationship look fake, sometimes the lady will also feel the guy is trying to lure her into a deep commitment and then change his attitude later and that scares ladies and freak them out.

2. Nice guys try too hard : Nice guys make ladies feel too important, like she’s a goddess or something close to that. They try too hard to please the lady, they often put aside their own needs for her and it scare ladies a lot

3. Nice guys seem desperate: When a guy shows too much affection to a lady and thereby paying little attention to himself, ladies see them as desperate, like his life depends on the lady and his success in life depends on the success of the relationship.

4. Nice guys don’t seem like they can protect themselves not to talk of the lady: Nice guys don’t seem like they can defend themselves, much less a woman. A lady want a guy she’ll feel safe and secure with, a guy that can protect and take care of her but a nice guy is too weak to protect himself not to talk of protecting his woman

5. Nice guys are predictable : A nice guy’s actions and reactions are like a Nollywood movie, you can predict the end from the first 3-5 scenes: so also a nice guy’s life has no fun, its been scripted, a straight path: they get married, have kids, go to work, retire. Women don’t want to add to that by dating a guy who is going to be so predictable they know his every move. Everyone likes a little
excitement and adventure. Women want to
know that they’re going to have fun with the
guy they’re with, not a guy who bores himself..

6. Nice guys seem like doormats : A nice guy is almost certainly a ‘yes man” everything goes with him, they are too weak for themselves, they can’t decide for themselves, not the cloth to buy or the watch they want, they put the lady in the drivers sit of their life and they hardly earn respect., always too scared to react to things that doesn’t favour them and when someone can’t take action for himself its a clear signals that the guy probably won’t stand up for his lady either.

7. Nice guys seem insecure : Nice guys
come across as so anxious to be liked and
accepted that you never know if they
actually like you or just want to be with you
because you actually paid attention to them.
Nice guys are easy to take advantage of and score freebies from. You teach people how to treat you, so if you act insecure and needy, people will treat you as such.
Insecurity on the part of a guy is a major turnoff.

8. Nice guys expect everybody to treat them nicely: Nice guys expect that because they treat every nice that people should respond to them in kind. But they often allow their own emotions and feelings to take a back seat, for the sake of other people, and when
other people don’t reciprocate, they play the
part of the victim. No woman wants to deal
with a guy with such mentality.

9. Nice guys are not a challenge : A nice guy will always be there for his lady whether she hurts him or offend him, they make it clear they’ll never leave so you don’t
bother to look good because you don’t think
it will even matter. Women want to be with
someone who is going to present a
challenge; it keeps the relationship on its
toes. It makes the relationship more
interesting.

10. Nice guys don’t behave like men : Nice
guys think that by always asking for her
opinion they’re being sensitive, but many
times they’re just being annoying. Women
want a guy who can take charge and create a plan and make a decision. Always asking her to make a decision is irritating and makes you seem like you don’t have a pair of balls.

Am not telling guys to be harsh or treat ladies bad but too much niceness portrays a guy as weak, insecure and a bad choice for a relationship You have to like yourself, feel confident and be able to stand up for yourself.

Most women don’t truely want to date a bad boy except for the ‘exceptional cases”, ladies just want someone they’ll respect and will respect them in return not a ‘yes man” who is too weak for himself, women love a guy who treats them well, but they also love men with guts and the ability to speak up for themselves.

Women want to feel protected and know
that the guy they’re with will have their back,
no matter what. Saying that women don’t like
you because you’re a “nice guy” is a weak excuse, chances are it’s not simply because
you’re nice; it’s because you behave like a baby.

Importance Of Loyalty

Loyalty or fidelity means devoted commitment that cannot be broken easily. To be loyal, means to adhere to all the promises made for the lifetime.
To keep all the commitments made forever.
Loyalty is rather a very easy word but a very laudable quality that is difficult to keep for many

Loyalty does not consider change in circumstances, rather it grows stronger in times of trouble.
If I am loyal to my partner and my partner meets with an accident that disfigured her, does not mean that I go away to somebody that looks better. If I commit to someone in a relationship and that person goes broke after sometime, that does not mean that I will look for richer persons, people who are loyal don’t break the relationship even at that time., every situation that comes tests loyalty.

When love is going through a period of uncertainties it is loyalty that keep people together.
Every relationship rests on trust and truth. If the relationship began with lies, it can never be sustained, from the seeds of lies how can truth grow?

The first need or requirement of going in a long-term relationship is to be truthful in all respects, fooling others into believing lies is very wrong. Once you have decided to and committed loyally, you should never break it under any circumstances, there can be no excuse for that. By doing any such act, we hurt the other partner who believed in us, and we hurt ourselves by becoming an unfaithful and unreliable person. We lose our self-esteem totally after that. Once that happens, the path is only downhill, all the way to hell. Love and loyalty go together. How can we be disloyal in love? That is an impossible thought.
To love and to be loved is a blessing, to break that by being disloyal is a sin against goodness and If by any chance one does an act of disloyalty, one must immediately confess and ask for forgiveness but will the relationship ever remain same after this act of disloyalty? No. Unless one is lucky to have an extra ordinary partner, the relationship will never remain the same. Better to be a loyal and truthful person always.

…………1 Flaw in Women

Women put love first
They are creators
They don’t control rather they are very caring
Not aggressive but very passionate
A woman is not relentless but very dedicated
Women have strengths that amaze men…..
They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but
they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they
are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in..
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer when they
believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel and cheer when
their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a
wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet
they are strong when they think there is no strength
left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken
heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show
how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep
turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to
give..
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN, IT IS
THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH

Letter To My Unborn Child

My letter to my unborn child
My yet to be conceived best friend
Am yet to know whether you are male or female
But I know you are somewhere in heaven
Patiently waiting for me to bring you into this world

I put you in my prayer everyday
Each day I wake up brings you close to me
And am hoping to hold you very soon
Please don’t be angry ’cause of the delay in bringing you to the world
It was never my plan to delay you for too long

The uncertainty of the world changed my plan
Moreover the search for your mother was not an easy task
Dated different tribes
Met all kinds of girls
Being through so many disappointments

Being through many heartbreaks
Patched my heart so many times
But I found someone who could be your mother
We planning good things for you

Every night before I sleep
I wonder what your name will be
The school you’ll attend
I strive to give you the best

The best of the things I never had
Didn’t had so much growing up
Struggled through the hood
Through elementary to university
Never had the best of things

But its an assurance
A sure assurance
I’ll make sure I give you the best of things
The very best available
Which is why am hustling hard

But wait,
I have some words of wisdom
Which I feel I must impart
Remember these words always
And keep them in your heart

Dishonesty is bad
Never use it to get by
Always tell the truth
No matter the circumstance

Always love your woman/man
Keep her/him first in your life
And she/he will always be there,
To kiss away your strife
Always respect him/her,
Be the best thing in his/her life

Enjoy this thing called life
Don’t live it cold and bland
Close your eyes and take a leap,
Never do anything without proper planning and thinking

Try not to lose your temper
It’s really no big deal
But my daughter/son if you must fight
Do it for something real and just

Take the time to listen
To what people have to say
And don’t forget to smile;
It could brighten someone’s day

Education is key
Acquire it to the highest level
It will open doors for you
And you’ll liberate many souls

Never be a miser
Neither should you be a spendthrift,
Be a cheerful giver
’cause blessed is the hand that giveth

Try to live with patience
Do it the best you can
Stand up for those who can’t
Always fight for justice

Always be a leader
Step forward never hide
Put yourself out there
And they’ll stand by your side

These things I hope you learn
Someday you’ll come to find
But for now they’re just a dream
Tucked away inside my mind

My child
I truly love you
Though your face I’ve never seen
But I do love you

Now and forever
Everyday that comes between me and you
I know you are closer to me than ever.

These are my words to you
My unborn best friend
I love you child