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A Song For Mama


A song for my mama
A song for my true love
A song for my goddess
On her special day

On this special day mum
I celebrate your life
Being the extra ordinary woman you are
You have made a whole lot of differences

You turned a boy to a man
You raised two kids from boyhood

To Manhood

I could have grown up a gangster
But you led me to church

You kept me in church
And you made my life a good one
All my childhood memories
Are filled with the sweet things you did for me

You fell in love with me since you conceived me
And till date you never stopped loving me
The only woman who never broke up with me
Even when I do annoying things

During the days of my greatest depressions
During those days I felt I can’t do anything good
During those days I felt the world is against me
You stood by me, never made me feel alone

I celebrate your smart mothering
Your clever and creative methods
Of gently molding your beloved child into your vision of me:
I celebrate your boundless physical and emotional energy in loving me, leading and supporting me

On your birthday Mom,
I celebrate the best thing about my life…
Having you as my mother.
Without you my special, loving mom,
I would not be here.

Yes, I owe it to you, Mom.
Though we do fight once in a while
You never stopped believing in me
You never stopped loving me
When I succeed and when I fail
You never stopped encouraging me

You loved me and enriched my life,
And I’m so glad to have you in it!
There is no way I could pay you back mum
But I sure know what you deserve

Happy Birthday mum
Many Happy Returns to come
Hopefully your next birthday will be with your grandchild
I love you to bits Mama

Happy Birthday mama

Building a Perfect Relationship

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection” Brené Brown

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind woman and a deaf man, because the blind woman cannot see the faults of the man and the deaf man cannot hear the nagging of the woman.

Building a perfect relationship is a full time job that requires commitment, hardwork and great perseverance.

Rome was not built in a day neither were the builders ‘jumping on each others “throat, so also good relationships don’t just happen;
It takes two people who truly wants to be together.
Two people who are willing and ready to sacrifice for each other
Two individuals who are very considerate and are willing to bury their egos for a cause they believe in; LOVE.

Like flowers, relationships needs to be nurtured, watered with pure and true heart and with a view to help each other improve in their chosen fields, a relationship that does not add value to the either love birds is wrong for both parties and it sure won’t hurt to quit.

In building a perfect relationship there are some important elements that are needed:

TRUE LOVE
To build a perfect relationship, the partners need to be sincere in their feelings towards each other, because only when they truly love each will they have a chance to commit and stay loyal to each other.

TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

PATIENCE
Think first before u lose your patience with someone you love. Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes, we are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will either haunt us or help build the relationship.

COMMUNICATION
Talking to one another about everything supports this idea of transparency. We are the only species on the planet that has been gifted with symbolic language, yet we often fail to use it in its most effective capacity – building and maintaining healthy relationships.
Love birds who converse get to know what’s going on. There’s no second guessing, no surprises and no sense of potential deception.

FORGIVENESS
We all look forward to being loved and respected.
Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he/she would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

ORIGINALITY
To create a healthy relationship you have to truly be and represent who you truly are. There is only one thing you have to share with your partner that they cannot experience with someone else…complete intimacy. In order to have intimacy on all levels (sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual) you must honestly show yourself, including your soft underbelly. Seeing and loving each other into fuller expression is the key to a profoundly passionate relationship.  Be vulnerable enough to let your partner see who you really are and be ready to receive love and acceptance.

RESPECT
When partners hold each other as their priority, respect is a natural eventuality. Constantly being late, saying one thing then doing another without preamble all show a lack of respect and consideration. Putting someone else’s needs before your is not really a sacrifice rather it consideration because of the respect and love you have for the person

TEAMWORK
Relationships flourish when you keep your eye on the highest good. When you’re focused on winning, often you’re trying to make the other lose. A successful relationship is about being teammate with a common goal. Your chosen partner is here to heal you and is bringing to light aspects of yourself that you cannot see. Therefore, always assume 100% responsibility for your experience, especially in a disagreement. Often there is something in what your partner is saying that is true. When you respond to your partner’s deeper message instead of reacting, you create a powerful experience of healing negative conditioning and initiate a deeper connection between you and your partner.

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When partners get too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would
hurt the other party. Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception.
One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.

EXPECTATIONS
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their partner will change the bad habits after as they get along, actually, this is not the case. There is a saying that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.” It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the partner’s character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

To build a perfect relationship is not impossible once all the aforementioned elements are put to use.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others
as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.

Written by Amaechi Catherine
@amaraamaechi

The Economics of LOVE

Economics is the social science which studies human behavior as a relationship between ends and …….. personal growth, love and happiness to your everyday life. … as a relationship between ends and scarce means which have alternative uses .

The laws of economics are closely related to how most of us think about love, how we reciprocate in a market of love. About 90% of economics laws are based on assumptions and
taking all things as constant.

So, to start with let’s consider the laws of economics as it applies to love.

The Marxian Analysis : This states that the society is based on two things, the economic base and the super structure (all other things in society). The super structure is depended on the economic base. In other words, the whole story of finding and keeping love is dependent on your financial power.
The law of supply of love states that the higher the money supply the higher the supply of love (getting a beautiful babe), i.e., money is directly related to love.
Similarly, the law of demand of love states that the higher the price (the amount of money a boy needs to spend), lower is the demand for that girl, as even though many people want to date but don’t have the means to get her.

However, there the law of diminishing marginal utility works; it works in the either way for the parties in love. Utility is nothing but the psychological satisfaction derived. The law of diminishing marginal utility, states that more and more of a thing we get, the intensity of our desire for that thing tends to diminish. Once, a boy start spending more and more, at a point the satisfaction the girl was getting from the gifts gets diminished. Similarly, once a boy start getting more from the girl after a point he will not get the satisfaction he earlier used to get.
So, it is equally important for both the parties to maintain a balance otherwise the fun would soon be over.

Money plays an important role in love because ladies love money. There are 4 major four of love which determines your level of success in love and they are as follows:
K – Money
P – Physical attributes,
I – Intelligence,
C – Level of creativity

There is a direct relationship between the physical inputs (K, P, I, C) and outputs (mental and physical benefits. This functional relationship is known as production function of love. The law of return will explain the change in output as a result of change in input.

Law of Diminishing Return: In a short run relationship, more employment of variable input (spending) can ultimately led to lesser output or the marginal benefit diminishes. As one of the factors may be changed (money) in a short run, other factors (suppose your muscles) may not be changed, so spending (K) too much may not improve the boy’s chance of getting better benefit. This may happen due to the efficient
combination is falling out, (you have to spend more to hide your physical or other deficiencies) or may be your quantity of fixed factors have become less compared to your variable factors (your physical attribute is so low, that you might have to spend more than what you have spent earlier to impress her, by this time she must have known your weak point but you are helpless.) As, both must have the same level of satisfaction and there is compromise between the two. Once, both have started seeing each other and dating, and you have already started investing,let’s explain the cost-benefit analysis of this relationship from a boy’s psychology and insight.

• A boy spends money on a girl as a capital investment to reap profit in future.
• The more is the spending on good capital resources (gifts and expensive dates) better is chance of getting good output or profit.
• The time one spend, feel good and gets excited is what the break-even point of love, if one is not finding minimum level of satisfaction for his spending he is actually making loss, and would not like to continue the relationship.
• The moment you get a kiss is what you have started making profit.
• The moment you get into her, is what you have started making super-normal profit and hit the
jackpot.
• And if you could not succeed, it is your bad- debt. The whole investment on capital was a wrong calculation and lack of efficient management. Let’s try the luck somewhere else.
Now, let’s analyse what going on in a girl’s mind and why they love money more than anything.
• A girl thinks that the boy must be economically sound and can prove to be a good hubby in
future (economically sound).
• More spending shows that his capability to maintain her lifestyle in future.
• Mental satisfaction is the main thing, the girl thinks her break-even point of love, she feels
good but also the amount of gifts obtained plays an important role.
• When a girl gets emotional, she might give a kiss or might be having a plan to get more gifts
from you. Girls are too complex to understand.
It’s like a gamble you might hit the jackpot or be debt ridden.
• This is where, emotions plays a lot than money but it matters as well. Love for boys is a means to achieve sex which is the ultimate goal. But girls think sex as a means to achieve stronger relationship as a goal. She might give you a chance, when she feels financially safe and secure from your side.
• He was just a fool, she played the way around. She gets “I am the winner” feeling.
Now she will try another fool who can pay her bills.
The Micro – Loveconomics.